How to be a “Healer”

Without a doubt, the world needs healing now more than ever before. Whether you are a doctor, nurse, therapist, masseuse, reiki practitioner, shaman, witch doctor, or ANY sort of human being, here are some important principles to follow in order to do your part to heal the world.

1. Understand that you are not really a “healer”. 

The first and most important step to becoming a “healer” is understanding that you are NOT a “healer”. You are a FACILITATOR of healing. You don’t heal people. People heal themselves; you just give them the tools and the framework with which to do so.

 2. Do no harm to any living creature. 

Not even spiders! In order to be the most effective facilitator of healing possible, you need to value all life. It is important to realize that it is not for you to decide what life is valuable and worthy of love and what life is not. Honor all life and life will begin to honor you.

3. Learn to love yourself, unconditionally. 

Easier said than done. Learning self-love has been a challenge during my own journey. What worked best for me was sitting down and clearly defining my values, goals, accomplishments, shortcomings, needs, etc. I took stock of myself and I took responsibility for my life. I then came to a conclusion regarding the way I wanted my life to be and made a commitment to taking care of myself so I could make it happen. When I find myself tempted to engage in self destructive actions I ask myself: Is what I am about to do going to help me reach my goals? What do I really need right now that I am not getting? How can I meet those needs in ways that align with my values? Self love starts with listening to ourselves, even to the parts we try to ignore and don’t approve of, and working to find healthy ways to meet our own needs.

4. Learn to love others, unconditionally. 

What is unconditional love? It is love for the pure sake of loving because everyone deserves love. Just as hate begets hate, kindness begets kindness and kindness for the sake of kindness is a practice of unconditional love. It is critical to understand, when people are hateful, when they hurt one another, it is because they are suffering in some way and do not know how to cope. Somewhere along the way, they were hurt, misguided, or didn’t get something they truly needed. Loving people unconditionally does not mean tolerating abuse. If someone abuses you, respectfully exit their life. You do not have to be with a person to love them; love transcends space and time. It has been my experience that, when genuinely loved and respected, even the most abused individuals will remember those few who were truly kind to them and make an effort to get better to keep those people in their lives. It’s a long process, but I have seen first hand that love can heal all wounds.

5. Find the lesson in everything so that you can help others do the same. 

Life is full of lessons and, as the human experience is highly subjective, the interpretation of those lessons can vary. When negative things happen to us, it is so easy to walk away thinking things like: Well I guess I shouldn’t trust people. I shouldn’t have taken a risk and tried something new. The world is out to get me so I should just stay home. Sometimes, bad things have to happen to get people to see important things about themselves that they were avoiding, neglecting, or denying. Even the most tragic events can serve as a call to action, teaching us that we need to wake up and take better care of each other and ensure the respect, dignity, and safety of our fellow mankind. It is during the most difficult and challenging moments of life that we have the greatest potential for personal growth. Often, suffering is our greatest teacher.

6. Understand that every single moment of your life is precious. 

Absolutely everything that you think, do, and say is important. You never know when you might make a difference or save someone’s life simply by smiling and saying “hello”. You may even make the greatest positive impact when you feel you are at your weakest and most vulnerable.

 7. Be grateful for everything that you have. 

Practice gratitude to teach gratitude for gratitude is the seed of abundance. Keep in mind, The Universe will work to confirm whatever it is you harbor within you. If you see the world pessimistically, it will continue to appear to be so until you decide to change your perception. If you practice gratitude, you will begin to attract more to be grateful for. This is the Law of Attraction and it begins its work in your own mind.

 8. Be patient. 

The healing of others does not happen on your time. As a reiki practitioner, one of the most valuable things I’ve learned has been to separate myself from the outcome of each session. It is important to do this regardless of the type of “healer” you are. We are all on our own unique journey and we each have our own wounds to heal from. In order to be the most effective facilitator of healing possible, one has to detach from any expectations towards the outcome. This isn’t always easy to do but it is necessary. Obviously, we want others to get better but sometimes things have to get worse first. Often, the old has to be completely destroyed for the new to be built. If we don’t detach from expectations we can easily become displeased with any lack of progress and things may quickly become about our own egos instead of the person who has sought our help. Then, our ability to be effective facilitators of the healing process is impeded.

The last and more important thing to always keep in mind, whether you are a “healer” or on your own journey of healing, is this: LIVE BETTER, LOVE BETTER, GET BETTER. 

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